How I Turned My Libido Back On (And How You Can Too)
Five years ago, I went looking for a solution to my zero sex drive. Every doctor told me low libido was “normal.” I tried all the things—supplements, having more sex, marriage counseling, even resorting to wine.
But it didn’t feel good having to get tipsy just to make my body available to my husband.
The Turning Point
Fast forward four years. I was miraculously introduced to hormone therapy. Four months into testosterone treatment and—BAM—my body zinged on.
I didn’t know what to do with this new desire. My body had never wanted sex at this level. I had never felt like I needed it, right now.
Take my pants off. Move the laundry over. Let’s go.
Shame Meets Awakening
With the rush of desire came an unexpected wave of shame.
I had been taught that being sexual was inappropriate. Sex had always felt like a chore—something I gave up, or something that happened to me. I had never been inspired or empowered by my sexuality.
I didn’t know orgasms had physical and mental health benefits. I didn’t know desire could make me feel vibrant and ALIVE.
So I started deconstructing that shame. I listened to podcasts and books about sex—uncomfortable at first. But for the first time, I heard women talk about sexual desire with pride, passion, and even inspiration.
They talked about sex like an art, a practice that lights up their souls, builds confidence, and deepens connection. And I thought—I can get on board with this.
Practicing Pleasure
I began practicing self-pleasure until there was no shame—only benefits:
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Better sleep
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Reduced pain (yes, there’s a toy for that headache)
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Less anxiety
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More connection with my body
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Even increased testosterone (which fuels a million other things)
What I’ve Learned From Thousands of Women
After walking with thousands of women on this journey, I’ve realized:
👉 Libido is not measured by how much sex you’re having.
Libido is measured by how alive you feel.
It’s your spice for life, your bounce, your giggles, your humming in the kitchen, your sassy little secret behind your eyes.
Libido is your desire to LIVE.
Doctors Don’t Always Get It
Too often, doctors treat us like appliances: “just add a little lube.” Or worse—“it’s your duty, just do it anyway.”
But here’s the truth: your libido is for YOU.
When you awaken independent desire, sharing it with someone you love becomes fun, playful, fulfilling—not a chore. And trust me: that is way, way better.
3 Effective Ways to Turn Yourself Back On
1. Testosterone
Requires a prescription. Available as creams, injections, or pellets.
👉 Find a hormone therapy provider at WakeHerUp.co.
2. DHEA
A non-prescription supplement that naturally increases testosterone.
I love SEXY from Radiate Wellness—a transdermal DHEA cream.
Use code WAKEHERUP for 15% off.
3. Addyi
Known as “the pink pill for women.” Requires a prescription.
Ask your doctor about Addyi or testosterone if you’re struggling with desire.
Bonus Boosters
✨ Functional Mushrooms – Reishi, Cordyceps, Lion’s Mane, and others support brain health and may increase libido.
✨ Toys, Supplements, Lingerie & Lube – See my favorite picks in my Libido Amazon Shop.
✨ Books – These were game changers for me. Find them in the Libido Amazon Shop.
✨ Spicy Music – I love listening to naughty songs in public. (Is this a kink? IDK, but it turns me on.) Here’s my Spotify playlist:
You Deserve to Feel Turned On
You deserve to feel lit up with passion, to want desire, to crave connection.
I hope my story sparks hope and new ideas for you to wake up your body and soul.
Because here’s the truth: you are worth the effort.
❤️ Marcella Hill
