Let’s Talk About Low Libido, Hormones & Pleasure
For years, my low libido was silently hurting my marriage.
It didn’t matter what my husband did—I just wasn’t turned on. I’d stay up late working to avoid going to bed, because I didn’t want to reject him or force myself into intimacy. Once we got started it was fine, even great—but I never craved it. I could’ve gone the rest of my life without sex and thought nothing of it.
What I didn’t know then was that loss of sexual desire is one of the most common symptoms of perimenopause. And yet most doctors dismiss it, telling women it’s “all in their head.” But if you’ve been there, you know how deeply it affects your life, your confidence, and your relationships.
Pleasure Is for YOU
Women are taught from a young age to “save” our bodies—to give them to someone when it’s the right time, or when someone has “earned it.” But no one teaches us that our bodies are ours first.
Our passion and desire aren’t just for others—they’re for us.
Orgasm is more than pleasure—it’s medicine:
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Reduces stress
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Improves sleep
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Relieves pain (yes, better than ibuprofen!)
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Reduces anxiety and depression
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Boosts mood and brain clarity
Orgasm is a built-in superpower. It suspends us in our fullest, most powerful selves, reminding us who we truly are.
1- Self-Pleasure Is Healing
When I began exploring self-pleasure, I discovered the deep healing power within my own body.
I found Oboo, a woman-owned company that creates empowering, beautiful products to help women reconnect with pleasure. Amy, the founder from Colorado, built this brand with love and intention—and I’m so grateful.
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2- Untangling Shame
Even after my libido returned, I realized I still carried shame around sex and pleasure. I had always thought of intimacy as something I was giving up, instead of something that could nourish me.
Through conversations (like on the Pleasure Positive Podcast) and powerful books, I’ve been unlearning old beliefs and stepping into a new perspective:
Sex and pleasure can be empowering, enlightening, and soul-filling.
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3- Testosterone Support
If low libido is affecting you, know that there are options. The Telehealth providers recommended at WakeHerUp.co specialize in hormone therapy and can help you find what works for your body.
After just four months on testosterone, I felt fully alive again. You can get started with a simple blood draw for less than $150
4- When Intimacy Hurts
If intimacy is uncomfortable or painful, you’re not broken—and you don’t have to suffer through it. Vaginal dryness is common as we age, but it doesn’t mean the end of pleasure.
I love Foria’s intimacy oils—infused with CBD for relaxation and enhanced sensation. Their Awakening Oil smells like chai tea—cozy, indulgent, and spicy. Perfect solo or with a partner.
5- Know Your Body
Want to go deeper? Watch The Principles of Pleasure on Netflix. It should be required viewing for every woman. Pour a glass of wine or tea, and let yourself learn about the full power of your body.
Final Reminder
You deserve pleasure.
You are worth exploring.
You are worth enjoying.
You are worth thrilling.
💛 You are the exact right person to give yourself all of that.
♥ Marcella Hill
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