My low libido was affecting my marriage. It felt like nothing he did would turn me on. I would work late to avoid going to bed, so I wouldn't have to reject him or just do it anyway. Once we got into it, it was great. But I never felt like I needed it or wanted it. I could've gone the rest of my life without sex. I didn't know that the loss of sexual desire was a sign of hormonal changes. Low libido is a very common symptom of Perimenopause. And most doctors are telling women that it's all in their head. Low libido in women is not a medical concern. Yet, we all know how much this is impacting our lives.
Having no libido is more than just not wanting to have sex. After 4 months of being on testosterone all of a sudden I had a sex drive. I didn't care if the dishes were done. I wasn't calculating when our last date was. I just wanted and needed sexual fulfillment. I hadn't realized that this level of passion and desire had been dimmed for years. Suddenly I had an energy I couldn't explain. I had sass and pep. I wanted to laugh and play. I listened to more music and danced in the kitchen.
Women have been told far too long to save our bodies so we can give them to someone at the appropriate time, when they have earned it. What the world forgot to teach us was that our bodies are for US! The built in desire and passion is for us to feel ALIVE!
Orgasm is a built in super power to reduce stress, increase sleep, reduce physical pain, decrease anxiety, give us a reprieve from being in a human body. Orgasm launches our spirit beyond our body and suspends us into our full power for just a moment. It reminds us who we truly are.
Without a libido, we are missing the desire to be in our fullness. We are missing the passion and drive to experience our expansive, explosive power.
Let's TURN YOU BACK ON!
SELF PLEASURE
I didn't know all the health benefits to Orgasm! This should be a part of our health routine. Did you know Orgasms reduce pain better than ibuprofen!? Did you know Orgasms can reduce anxiety and depression? Orgasms can help with brain fog and increase your quality of sleep. I have fallen in love with self-pleasure and the healing power my body holds within itself. I've searched for a classy company that empowers women and am so grateful to have found Oboo. It's owned by Amy from Colorado. She has poured her heart into creating a company that reminds women of their power and the importance of pleasure. ENJOY!!!
PERSPECTIVE
After I was able to increase my libido, I realized how much shame I still held around sex and pleasure. I had never understood that sexual experiences could be nourishing to my soul. I always felt like I was giving something up or something was happening to me. I didn't know sex could be enlightening and empowering. I shared my journey of untangling the shame around sex and pleasure with the women of the Pleasure Positive Podcast.
I also read books to help me gain new beliefs about my body and pleasure. Check out my favorite books along with some other fun things that can enhance your pleasure on my AMAZON Shop
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COMFORT
If pleasure hurts, it's not very pleasurable. A we age things dry up, including our vaginas which causes discomfort during intimacy. We also get a little bored with the same routine which leads to feeling uncomfortable emotionally. You should not be making yourself do anything that hurts or feels less than enjoyable. I found Foria which have become my favorite intimacy oils. Many of their products are infused with CBD adding that relaxation that we all need to be present and fully embrace our enjoyment.
The Awakening oil smells like Chai Tea! It's sensually cozy and indulgent with a touch of spice.
And Chai Tea is just as enjoyable alone as it is shared with a partner. YOU'RE PLEASURE MATTERS.
KNOW YOUR BODY
The documentary, The Principles of Pleasure, on Netflix should be a mandatory watch for all women everywhere. Pour yourself a cup of tea or your favorite glass of wine and learn about how to access your bodies full power!
YOU DESERVE PLEASURE. YOU ARE WORTH EXPLORING. YOU ARE WORTH ENJOYING. YOU ARE WORTH THRILLING. YOU ARE THE EXACT RIGHT PERSON TO GIVE YOURSELF ALL OF THAT.
♥Marcella Hill
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